We had the pleasure of hiking in Bruce Peninsula National Park yesterday and our adventure took us off route for an epic Dora the explorer experience.
Trekking through rocky terrain and fighting through scratchy bushes made me think of how marriage is similar to a hike especially for those braver souls who venture out together for months at a time for a hike.
Here are three similarities of marriage to a hike:
It is a fun, beautiful, scenic adventure with some crazy, scary and sometimes stressful points thrown in. It definitely starts out with a lot of energy and excitement ahead as you plan out your route/journey together and life adds spice to your marriage adventure by bringing change, conflict, joy and other routes that you can either struggle with alone or grab each other’s hands and move forward together. You can use tools like your map, GPS, advice from experienced hikers to prepare or help if you get lost along the way but it all means nothing if you are not both focused on the same goal or even pulling in the same direction.
There are going to be different forks along the path that can be difficult and seemingly impossible for both of you or just more challenging for one. That is where being a team comes in handy because you can always lean on each other, help by carrying their load, use kind words to encourage them or even carry them over the obstacles on the path. Communication is key in the climb because both of you bring value and different skill sets that can allow both to grow and go further.
It is really nice to have a break every once in a while. The first mile is a lot easier just like marriage but when it comes with challenges and two strong-willed people who are a little hungry and tired – the trail can get harder to navigate. For us, taking a break during a hike is very similar to the ones in marriage, they are a time of renewing, refuel, rest, enjoy the cool breeze and each other’s company. If taken together, the climb gets easier and you cover a lot more ground together along the hike.
Relationships are complex because we come into it with expectations, dreams and experiences that have shaped you into the person you are today. I still feel like we are on honeymoon after 3 years of marriage so we have lots of trails ahead of us; some rocky and some smooth but together as we go higher I know it will get even more beautiful as we grow.
Have a blessed day!